This video is from a couple of weeks ago. I wanted to get Tiffany’s permission before I shared this with all of you. Tiffany is one of our lifeguard friends from the “Y.” I had mentioned to her that Griffin was still working on jumping into the pool. She offered to come in on her own time and help Griffin out. This is a short clip from their first practice. Tiffany was so patient and encouraging to Griffin. I am constantly amazed and grateful to the staff at our “Y.” Go Griffin! and Thank you Tiffany!!
Today while we were at the playground, Griffin went to sit in the tunnel attached to the slides. He wanted me to take a picture, but before I could a smaller child came barreling through. Griffin started yelling, “Stop, wait a minute!!” I told Griffin to move so that the boy could get by, but Griffin continued yelling and just couldn’t understand why the boy kept trying to get by and not giving him a chance to move. I was panicking because Griffin is usually the oldest kid at the playground. Most kids his age are still in school at this time.
Griffin chillin’ in the tunnel
As I was trying to calm him down and help him out of the way, the little boy’s mom approached us. I was so worried that she would think Griffin was mean and being a bully, but to my surprise she started to apologize. *Megan introduced herself and said she recognized the two of us after meeting us last summer. She explained to Griffin that her son, *Ryan also has Aspergers and that he sometimes has trouble stopping himself once he gets an idea in his head.
I was so relieved when I realized we had met before, and as we began talking my own worry turned into concern for her. I wanted to let her know I understood and that she didn’t have to apologize for anything. Griffin started to calm down and apologized to her for not understanding. He then began to ask her about Ryan, who had run off to go play on the slides. Griffin was so engaging with her and at one point she said to him, “I wish I could hug you. You made me feel so much better.” He looked at me for approval and then said, “You can hug me, it’s ok.” I was so proud of him for being able to show compassion and for how quickly he turned it all around. When someone or something upsets Griffin, I remind him to imagine them as a person he cares about and to choose to be patient and loving. It’s my hope by doing this I can teach him (and remind myself in the process too) to respond more lovingly. This moment was the perfect opportunity to do just that.
As we left I hugged Megan. This time I thanked her for getting it. What turned out to be an “Oh, no!” moment, magically became an “Oh. No, I get it” moment.
*Names have been changed to protect identities
As always with Griffin’s permission I wanted to share this moment that recently happened. I apologize for the video being long, there was just so much that happened and I didn’t want to miss including any of it. The message is important. Thank you for taking the time to watch it, I hope you’ll be glad that you did 🙂 Just think “Netflix and Chill” 😉
I’ve loved the musical “Annie” ever since I saw a stage production of it when I was in the third grade. While I was singing “Tomorrow” I realized how important the lyrics are to me in my everyday life. I try to remind myself to live in the moment, but sometimes you just need to have a good cry, watch an old movie while having a nice glass of red wine, and go to bed. Each day is a new beginning and no matter what you’re going through (in our case Griffin starting the teenage years) “the sun will come out tomorrow…”
Griffin wanted to introduce you to his turtle, Lilac and her special friends. It reminds me that you never know who might turn into a friend.
13 Years ago on a warm spring day we were blessed by your entrance into the world
13 Years ago I couldn’t stop looking at you, wondering who you would become, never imagining this day would come so quickly
13 Years ago I didn’t know the challenges we would face or the amount of strength, love, and humor we would be blessed with that would help us get through it all
13 Years ago I couldn’t comprehend how amazing, complex, and unique you would be. I always want you to be proud of who you are, of all of who you are. I want you to share with the world your amazing insight and spirit
13 Years ago I couldn’t imagine that I would spend my days talking with someone so passionate about things like retro video games, classical music, and nature
13 Years ago I couldn’t prepare myself for the lessons I would learn from being your mom. Some of those lessons: be yourself, see the beauty in the everyday moments, never stop trying, go at your own pace
13 Years ago today, I love you even more than 13 years ago. I pray we continue to live through the challenges with grace, humor, and unconditional love. So far that combination has worked out for us
HAPPY 13TH BIRTHDAY, GRIFFIN!!
I wanted to share this project that we’ve been working on for awhile with the help of our friends Maya, Tom, and Nick. Special thanks to Natalie and David, our friends at Level 257.
Thank you for watching!
This is a short documentary that gives a glimpse into the lives of two parents and their son who is on the Autism Spectrum
Today while we were at the playground, Griffin once again reminded me of a very important lesson, DON”T EVER GIVE UP! He is an amazing teacher that also reminds me to keep going at my own pace. This one is a real challenge for me because I feel like I should be doing more, I feel like I should have accomplished more by now.
Griffin doesn’t worry about what he “should” being doing when it comes to target achievements, those physical ones that we’re told children should be doing by a certain age. He is joyful in every milestone and when he does do something his peers may have done years ago, that joy is all the more sweeter and meaningful.
Griffin is the best teacher and I love that I get to witness these moments. The joy he expresses is so beautiful. The confidence he gains is something I know he will take to the next challenge he faces.
Griffin has been working on climbing this tree for awhile. He’s gone from not wanting to even be placed on it, to being willing to be placed on it, to being spotted climbing it, to this!!
We’ve had some extra challenging moments these last few weeks and I needed to remind Griffin that no matter what he’s still my sunshine.
Tonight at dinner:
Griffin: “Mom, I think I have phobophobia”
Me: “What in the world is that?”
Griffin: “It’s the fear of having a fear”
Me: “What are you afraid of?”
Griffin: ” I’m afraid to try dinner. I’m afraid I won’t like it. I’m afraid of being afraid of being afraid to try dinner”
I give Griffin credit, after some encouragement he did try dinner. He then told me after taking only a few bites that he was full. He’s always trying to break it to me gently when he doesn’t like something I make but this takes the cake.
Cake, maybe that’s what I’ll try making next…